What do a birthday, a wedding, a graduation celebration, an anniversary party and Diwali have in common? Gifts! Everyone loves to receive them but not everyone likes to buy them. As varied as the occasions, the gifts come in all shapes and sizes and from equally different sources. While some are a joy to behold, others are simply thoughtless and may even be downright offensive. Some of the gifts are put together in a hurry and others are carefully planned. The thought that goes behind selecting a gift is the sentiment that can make it just perfect for the receiver. Read on to find out what the gift you receive could say about the person giving it to you.
The Passed-on-Forever Kinds – Its Diwali time and you get a box of dry fruits with the edges having frayed a good deal. Open it and the chances are the dry fruit would have gone bad. Read the date of packaging and it may carry a date for last year or so. It may even be a sandwich toaster from three years back; the warranty having expired and the box bearing the brunt of too many gift wrapping marks to even be considered as a gift for someone else.
Who gives something like this – Given by people who are either just plain stingy or really feeling the pinch penny-wise. It also indicates the person’s lack of respect for the person receiving the gift.
Deal with it – If it feels insulting, politely return it saying you cannot accept it. You do not need to offer any explanation for the same, but be firm in returning it.
The Perfectly Thoughtless Gift – You are having a baby shower and someone gives you a dress in Extra-small size, making it just 6 sizes too small. To make things worse, you simply cannot exchange it as it is not this season’s style and had probably been brought two seasons back during a sale. Not only does it not fit, it makes you feel miserable about your body.
Who gives something like this – Either someone who really hates you or is too busy in their high castle to notice that thoughtless gifts could hurt people.
Deal with it – If they do it every time, ask them for an exchange receipt. If it continues still, stop exchanging gifts with them and instead bake a cake for them or take them out for a treat on their special occasions and encourage them to do the same.
The Over -whelming Gift – The exact opposite of the stingy gift; the giver is too generous, the gift is amazing but still makes you feel anxious. An expensive limited edition perfume, a author signed copy of a rare book, a monogrammed luxury wallet and more, these gifts could send you into a tizzy just thinking about what you will gift them when it is their turn to be at the receiving end.
Who gives something like this – It is either someone who really cares to buy you the very best, money no bar; or someone with a hidden agenda.
Deal with it – If it is someone really close to you, thank them and don’t feel the pressure to be able to match it, show your affection in your own way. For someone you don’t know much, tell them you cannot accept it as it is too extravagant but would love to get to know them better; maybe they do mean well.
The Perfect Gift – A lot of thought goes into selecting the perfect gift and that is exactly what makes it wonderful. It doesn’t have to cost a bomb and can just as well be a bottle of homemade orange preserve, it just has to be well meaning. There are occasions that call for romantic gifts and others where a practical gift would be more appropriate.
Who gives something like this – Someone who really cares and makes sure that your important day is made even better with their thoughtfulness.
Deal with it – Thank them very sincerely and appreciate the extra mile they went to make the effort to find something you really love. Return the thought with an equally well thought out gesture.